It should be easy buying a gift for my husband, Randy. He has varied, fun, passionate interests – music, playing bass, wine collecting, and clothes, just to name a few. With a 65th birthday coming up, finding something should be a snap. Instead, it’s a Herculean task. Here are three reasons why… Randy buys whatever […]
Randy and I didn’t expect to have our big anniversary during a pandemic. But here we are and we’re adjusting. Instead of a splashy dinner in Manhattan, we’re doing French take-out on the back porch. Perfect. Maybe the splashy dinner didn’t matter. Maybe forty years speak for themselves. Here’s what ours have contained… Laughter – […]
Have you heard about the book, “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman? At first it sounded corny, but the more I read, the more I found it intriguing. I saw how my husband Randy and I share most love languages… but are still working on one… and don’t share another at all. Here they are… […]
Like Sisyphus rolling that rock up the hill, only to have it tumble back down, Randy and I have been having the same arguments for years. They’ve become as predictable as the sun rising. And although small, these issues never seem to get resolved. Here they are in no particular order… Thermostat drama—In almost […]
I get a cold chill when I hear them. Like someone with post-traumatic stress syndrome, my pulse increases. My stomach tightens. I start feeling light-headed. Did I hear that right? Maybe I got it wrong. But yes, Randy just uttered those frightful words: “I’m going food shopping.” Help me. I’ve heard other women say […]
I have few natural talents, but producing anxiety is right up there. It doesn’t take much to get the hamster wheel spinning – a medical test, taking a flight, meeting a new group of people. But having had this affliction all my life, I’ve gotten (if not good) at least better about relieving the […]
God bless my husband, Randy. He’s doing something soon he really doesn’t want to do. If left to his own devices, he’d be relaxing in front of the television or playing a gig. But instead, he’s escorting me to a city he hasn’t been for several decades to see someone give a talk he might […]
The other morning my husband Randy did something so unexpected, so out of the blue, so sudden, so surprising, I gasped in sputtering disbelief. “Its for your own good,” he said as I stood there, blinking back tears. I never thought I’d see this behavior in my spouse of 37 years. Yes, Randy snatched away […]
Almost forty years ago, Randy and I wanted to jump in a van and drive across America. But work, family, and life intervened and we never did…until this past week. We took Amtrak’s Southwest Chief from Chicago to Los Angeles. It was during this amazing journey, I learned several surprising things… My husband and I […]
You know when there’s something you must do, but can’t face it? You find yourself “backing into” the situation, pretending you’re not really doing it…even though you are? That’s how Randy and I feel about selling our home. We tell ourselves we’re only fixing it up after fifteen years – inside and out– because […]
